It is a good thing to be selfless, and put everyone before yourself, but when people have lived in less than ideal or under abusive circumstances, that selflessness might be pathological. People such as narcissists sometimes want you to do everything for them, and nothing for you.
When you start doing some things for yourself and not for the others, that can really make them angry. Why? You serving them, that’s like a drug to them. Cut off that addict and they will become aggressive about it. Why do people get angry when you start living your life for yourself?
It might come as a surprise.
To you, that internal conservation about living only for yourself probably has been building for many years, but to an onlooker who is in lack of insight in your thinking. And it might seem very sudden when you decide to do what is best for your interests and for you. They will consider you being rude and selfish!
Possibly it is somewhat childish to begin putting yourself first. Be that as it may, selfishness isn’t constantly an awful thing. In case you’re constantly sacrificial and never egotistical, would you say you are truly dealing with yourself? In what capacity can you genuinely be any acceptable to any other individual in the event that you aren’t any acceptable to yourself.
In spite of the fact that it might come as an astonishment to them, don’t stop for a second to come clean with them: that it is an individual choice that has nothing to do with them. In the event that they continue battling.
Sorry not sorry.
‘Sorry not sorry’ genuinely epitomizes how you should feel about it. I’ve said it commonly before that ‘I am sorry’ are the two most remarkable words in your jargon and you should possibly utilize them in the event that you really are heartbroken or in the event that you basically should retouch a fence among you and another person.
In any case, stop and think for a minute: there’s no explanation you should feel sorry about acting in your own eventual benefits, and any individual who has an issue with it ought to sit in syrup.
You’re number one, but don’t be an ass about it.
It’s alright to put yourself first. You ought to be number one! Yet, remember why it is that you’re putting yourself first. You need to create as an individual, carry on with a superior, more full life. You’re not doing it since you believe you’re superior to every other person. So don’t focus on it anybody’s face.
There is a lot that you can expect to change, when you start putting your needs in the first place. Your self-care is improving, and you will be able to focus more on your own work and leisure, and also you’re going to be able to build a better relationship with someone.
There are some people who might be mad at you when you say no, because you’re putting yourself first, but those people are probably not bringing a lot of value in your life.
Don’t be scared to put your foot down and make clear what you need. That’s your life to live, and you were not born to live this life for somebody else!