Do you consider yourself a loner? People who love their own company and enjoy it, and who like to spend some time alone, are sometimes misunderstood by others, and they are considered reserved, anti-social, outcast or strange.
The modern society praises extroverts, those who enjoy being in a crowd, surrounded by many people. A lot believe that teamwork is the only way to success, and that collaboration is every problem’s solution.
But, these beliefs are undermining the power of solitude. Let us clarify things, being alone isn’t the same as lonely. Even though solitude almost has become a lost art, it’s one of the best ways to slow down a little, and become more observant.
People who are enjoying time alone are actually very impressive, unique and interesting, and spending time by yourself can be very beneficial for both your psychological and physical well-being.
Here is how it can be good for your soul:
- Being alone can boost your independence.
- It can boost your confidence too, as it is going to remind you of your own qualities.
- The time-off can improve your concentration, help you become a lot more productive, and stimulate you to start pursuing your own dreams.
- It is going to help you relax and de-stress, since it will make you think about things which are important to you, not to others.
- It is very hard to be focused on yourself only, when you are overwhelmed by a lot of stimuli. When you’re alone, you have some time to decide what’s important in your life, and establish your priorities.
A psychoanalytic political theorist at Medaille College, Matthew Bowker, has researched solitude, and he has concluded that it’s a lot more devalued than it’s been in a very long time.
It is a very deep internal process. It might take a while and a bit of work before it turns into a pleasant experience. However, once it does, it is becoming maybe the most important relationship anyone ever had, the relationship you have with yourself.